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Popeye - when my husband was receiving palliative care the mental health people came to visit him connected to the hospice - they used to talk to him about all sorts - I would leave them alone but could hear them - often they would talk about things he would like to do - one day I heard him tell the bloke that he wanted to go fishing with my son and grandson - just wanted to throw his line in - the bloke talked about maybe the 3 of them could  just go to the beach and park up - he knew he couldn’t he was on 24/7 oxygen - another day I heard him talking about going to the dog park - I think it was just to keep him remembering the good times - one day one turned up he had purple spiked hair winkle picker shoes striped stove pipe trousers and a floral shirt - the look on my old boys face was hilarious but enjoyed talking to him  - he went to leave but hadn’t got  out the door and my husband called out at the top of his voice “What did you think of that wanxxx- the bloke said to me that he wished I could see the look on my face - actually he returned several times and even after Philip passed he came .Dont take it to heart Popeye he was probably  just humouring Mr P - one thing I would say even though my husband was terminally ill he died very suddenly and I am glad on the last night he was lucid we had a fantastic 3 hours with a Robie - so many times he drove us nuts but I would have found it hard to live with was the last thing we said to  one another was me complaining - would give anything to have him here complaining about the cup of tea having too much sugar or not enough sugar
Don’t give yourself a hard time Popeye they won’t let him come home just humour him - you have been best mates for so many years - that’s just my tuppence worth look after yourself - Missy will love the grass especially cat mint

Thoroughly agree with you JanW. 
 Popeye What you have been told could have been taken out of context and there’s  no way they would send MrP home without all in agreement. The more you make a drama of  it only adds to your stress - just humour him and change the topic. 

As you have seen over the past couple of weeks you can choose how much contact you want and he is still looked after so really the ball is in your court and you can decide how much you can put up with and
Take it at your own pace.