30-10-2022, 10:24 AM
Most of our generation will know, or know of, women coerced into giving up their babies years ago. In those days the choices were to either marry (sometimes known as a shotgun wedding) which sometimes proved to be a disaster but occasionally worked, or to 'go up north for a while' to a home for unmarried mothers to have the baby where they'd be well away from their families & friends so that no one would know about the pregnancy.
Sometimes they worked up till the birth, sometimes not but then they were pressured to give the child up. Some places cruelly refused to allow mums to even see their baby on the grounds it would 'make things easier'.
And now decades later those women are speaking out about their experiences.
https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/1302692...nt-apology
It was years before Svendsen saw her daughter again. The child was placed for adoption against her wishes – a common practise in the post-war decades, when society thought it was improper for a single unwed mother to raise children on her own.
Sometimes they worked up till the birth, sometimes not but then they were pressured to give the child up. Some places cruelly refused to allow mums to even see their baby on the grounds it would 'make things easier'.
And now decades later those women are speaking out about their experiences.
https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/1302692...nt-apology
[b]Thousands of unwed Kiwi mothers had their babies taken away from them during the post-war decades. Nearing the ends of their lives many are still fighting for a government apology, as Katie Doyle reports.[/b]
Kaaren Svendsen curled up on a hospital bed and sobbed as the cries of her stolen newborn echoed in her head.
She’d been asking nurses where her baby was as she recovered from giving birth.
“I went looking for her. I could hear her crying. I knew that she was the baby that was crying because all the other babies were out with their mothers being fed.
“I went to the door and a nurse chased me away and told me I was not allowed to go in there.”
It was years before Svendsen saw her daughter again. The child was placed for adoption against her wishes – a common practise in the post-war decades, when society thought it was improper for a single unwed mother to raise children on her own.
From the late 1940s through to the early 1970s thousands of young women had their children forcibly taken off them under the guise that everyone would be better off for it.
The cruel practise guaranteed a supply of newborn infants for married couples unable to have children; particularly for men who found their fertility impacted by their service in World War II.
The Government has never apologised to the mothers who had their babies taken away and time is running out, with many of them now in their 80s.
Getting pregnant as a teenager was easy during the ‘baby scoop’ era of the 1950s-1970s, partly because it was illegal to even discuss contraception if you were under the age of 16.
Adoption researcher Dr Anne Else, who is an adoptee herself, says there was a surge in forced adoption when children born during the post-war baby boom reached adolescence and started exploring their sexuality.
“Before World War II illegitimate children would often end up in institutions, and would die at a very high rate,” she says.
Those who did want to try and keep their babies ran up against powerful social forces, with doctors, families and religious institutions working to remove their children.
“The line was, ‘if you really love your baby, you will give it up for adoption, because it will have a good life with a married couple who will love it and look after it’,” says Else"
in order to be old & wise, you must first be young & stupid. (I'm still working on that.)