23-10-2022, 08:14 AM
It is going to be a stunner I think...
Spent an hour or so yesterday with my ailing friend who tells me she is getting to the point where a rest home would be her best bet so she has applied for assessment to begin the process. She is letting me know because as her executor I will be sorting out her flat and doing all those final things for her, easier though popeye, than your tasks, because she has been easing into it for sometime. That is the benefit of a terminal diagnosis, having that advance warning so we can stop frittering and get serious about needs and wants. With that in mind her initial plan was to donate everything, but as I pointed out with a bit of time and good luck I will be able to get her a bit extra for her personal savings if we try a few TM listings first, so she has agreed to that.
She is the second friend I have watched go through this process, and I have learned such a lot from both of these ladies. No doom and gloom, just a quiet acceptance and a determination - different in each case - to make good decisions that suit themselves and those around them. I hope when my turn comes I have that same courage. Interesting though those differences. Ali had husband and family close by, but really had to manage them as well as herself, their grief putting an unimaginable stress on her, whilst Jean has a distant uninvolved daughter and a few not too close friends, so she is free to focus on her own needs and not worry about how others respond. Sometimes being a solitary has distinct benefits...
Spent an hour or so yesterday with my ailing friend who tells me she is getting to the point where a rest home would be her best bet so she has applied for assessment to begin the process. She is letting me know because as her executor I will be sorting out her flat and doing all those final things for her, easier though popeye, than your tasks, because she has been easing into it for sometime. That is the benefit of a terminal diagnosis, having that advance warning so we can stop frittering and get serious about needs and wants. With that in mind her initial plan was to donate everything, but as I pointed out with a bit of time and good luck I will be able to get her a bit extra for her personal savings if we try a few TM listings first, so she has agreed to that.
She is the second friend I have watched go through this process, and I have learned such a lot from both of these ladies. No doom and gloom, just a quiet acceptance and a determination - different in each case - to make good decisions that suit themselves and those around them. I hope when my turn comes I have that same courage. Interesting though those differences. Ali had husband and family close by, but really had to manage them as well as herself, their grief putting an unimaginable stress on her, whilst Jean has a distant uninvolved daughter and a few not too close friends, so she is free to focus on her own needs and not worry about how others respond. Sometimes being a solitary has distinct benefits...