You can never have enough...

[Oh_hunnihunni]

It was a huge load off my mind when I backed off from all family stuff. The drama quotient dropped away to almost zero, and I had time to sort out my own life instead of worrying about what was going on in others. It was probably a relief for them too, lol, one less personality in the mix, because even if unintentional, sometimes our presence is as much a match to the fire as anyone else's.

I have got to the point with my friends estate matters where I can bring it all to a close, and while no one else will be happy, I will be. Some roles are both privilege and burden, but I have learnt a great deal from this exercise. And I will put that new knowledge to work redoing my own Will and Advanced Care Directive so the person tasked with sorting that out has a clear path before them. Well, as clear as I can make it. One thing though, that little funeral cover policy I took out was an excellent decision, I do wish J had done that too. That little bit of extra money will help a lot with last expenses.

Yesterday I split up a clump of my special agapanthus. The stems are really tall, bearing glorious heads of slow opening navy blue flowers that do not spread by seed, so it is not a nuisance in the garden, but boy, a clump is hard work to split. I finally gave up playing nice with a big kitchen knife and got vicious with a spade which sorted them, and I have seven good pieces to pop into the back of my two perennial gardens. With luck they'll not need tending for another five years, lol. I will just have to remember to snail bait them regularly, they are snail farms in whatever hybrid form they come.

Might have an indoor day today to recover from all this energetic garden stuff...