(29-05-2023, 03:40 PM)kiwimade64 Wrote: lol Lilith, oh to be a fly on the wall when he reads your emailMy sister-in-law had a do-it-yourself funeral and it worked well. MrK put the coffin together, his niece is an artist and painted the most gorgeous tui and NZ bush on it. It was almost a shame to burn it!
Well - he's just come back with a reply - $600 for a kitset plywood coffin!
Thrifty lad, sweetie darling no.2. I really object to the prices being charged by funeral directors & intend to have an unfuneral with no service as such just - family get together, & grandkids have been saving up their (highly exaggerated) stories to tell about their saintly gran, before they scatter my ashes to the four winds.
(29-05-2023, 04:20 PM)Roma Wrote: https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/1321158...t-of-dying
Is this the article Lilith? I also read it with interest!
Yes, that's it Roma.
(29-05-2023, 04:27 PM)popeye333 Wrote: Transporting the coffin , is one of the bigger costs of a funeral so it makes sense to DIY. Its why in our lot there has been more instant cremations, thus no embalming and transport problems.
Its how MrP and I have planned things. But also no funeral. Ill scatter his ashes to the sea. If I go first well Im blowed if I know what he would do for me... So Long as he doesn't take me on Trips like his father did with his Mother.
Much to MrP's disgust when the undertaker brought Mums ashes back she told him he would need a coffin made for him due to his size.
Geeze I wish I could see that women now, we could both be "Off the Rack" sizes now lol
So many people dont talk about death, dying and making plans and it just makes it harder for those having to deal with it.
But I can proudly say my Proudest moment was organising my Stepfathers funeral.. and doing the catering for one of my Stepfathers friends wife's funeral. He was Māori, She wasn't. And he didn't want his family taking over. Unusual I know. So we planned what he wanted, , they had the service with Mavis at home, went to the cemetery, which I went to and saw how he was pushed out. Then I went back to do the food. He said it was perfect and he knew he could trust me and knew that no one would push me around.
Its horrible when family politics messes up a time that should be special.
I remember when my Thai friends Dutch husband died. I had to go and tell them its Not a done thing to take photos with the dead person. It might be in Thailand, but not here and his brother was getting very annoyed by it. She threw me in the deep end and wanted me to speak, without any notice. Thankfully sometimes I quite enjoy speaking in public. Im sure Jakob was watching over me.
Do talk about it, Do make plans, Make living plans and make sure they know if you are a donor. And what you want. After all its your funeral
Absolutely agree Popeye - that lot know what I want & I've told them that I have every intention of coming back to haunt them, if they don't follow instructions.
in order to be old & wise, you must first be young & stupid. (I'm still working on that.)