Yesterday, 10:54 AM
Okay. I have had time to think about this, so here goes.
CT, I have carried an unexpected pregnancy, discovered the fact late after years of medically diagnosed infertility, and carried that child to full term, so I know what that means. I have also had a surgical termination so I know what that means too. I think both experiences qualify me in ways no male will ever be able to match, to speak about female fertility and the way our communities deal with it.
No termination is without consequences, just as no pregnancy is without consequences, primarily for the woman doing the hard yards, but also for her wider circle, including the professional one. And, as it is her body, her psyche, and her life that is at risk, it is entirely her responsibility when it comes to choices and decisions. Anything else is simply unconscionable.
Where late term terminations occur there is always a reason, always consequences, and no uninvolved bystander has any conception or understanding of those, be they legislators, or religious/politically motivated do gooders. Walk a mile in her shoes, then shut the fuck up about it, because CT, there is no way you will ever understand or be expected to understand the cost, the price, of being female and fertile in a world where being female in this world means constant threat to your well being and life.
When male fertility is as legislated, as controlled, and as exploited as female, then maybe we will be a more mature species. Till then hands off things female...
CT, I have carried an unexpected pregnancy, discovered the fact late after years of medically diagnosed infertility, and carried that child to full term, so I know what that means. I have also had a surgical termination so I know what that means too. I think both experiences qualify me in ways no male will ever be able to match, to speak about female fertility and the way our communities deal with it.
No termination is without consequences, just as no pregnancy is without consequences, primarily for the woman doing the hard yards, but also for her wider circle, including the professional one. And, as it is her body, her psyche, and her life that is at risk, it is entirely her responsibility when it comes to choices and decisions. Anything else is simply unconscionable.
Where late term terminations occur there is always a reason, always consequences, and no uninvolved bystander has any conception or understanding of those, be they legislators, or religious/politically motivated do gooders. Walk a mile in her shoes, then shut the fuck up about it, because CT, there is no way you will ever understand or be expected to understand the cost, the price, of being female and fertile in a world where being female in this world means constant threat to your well being and life.
When male fertility is as legislated, as controlled, and as exploited as female, then maybe we will be a more mature species. Till then hands off things female...